A negative emotional balance that the heart can cause is a lack of satisfaction. Rather than being indecisive, in this case, you know what you want. But making your choice, and even achieving that goal, brings no pleasure. The most obvious place that this emotional negativity reveals itself is in work. Whether we like our job or not, when our hearts are divorced from our heads, our dissatisfaction with our jobs goes up. And this is currently a common problem in the American workforce.
Recent surveys show that more Americans than ever are dissatisfied with their jobs. Some are burned out or bored, while others feel that professional success has eluded them. Stress over financial well-being – which for many is synonymous with professional success – is the primary source of discontent. Indeed, when people are asked if they could have anything in the world right now, most report wanting “more money.”
The research is overwhelming that the heart and the mind are linked in ways that we are only beginning to understand. Scientists now understand that the heart not only responds to emotion, but that actually plays a vital role in determining them. By recognizing and understanding the heart’s communication network with the brain, we may be able to achieve a better self-understanding than we ever thought possible.
Like many good things in our lives, the benefits if this body of knowledge come down to the issue of trusting ourselves. We use the phrase “trust your gut,” but this expression can be more accurately translated to “listen to your heart.” If the heart is indeed a functioning brain that offers us a sense of intuition or premonition, we need to learn to accept what it tells us.
What is exciting about the new discoveries of the close connection between the heart and the mind is that we can use this knowledge to improve our mental and physical health.
Many research studies have revealed that that the risk of developing heart disease is significantly increased for people who routinely experience anger or frustration. These emotions can cause stress blood vessels to constrict, blood pressure to rise, hormone levels to increase, and the immune system to weaken. If these emotions are not handled well and continue over time, they can place a serious strain on the heart.
You’ve probably read about a seemingly healthy person dying soon after the death of a spouse. While it may seem to be the stuff of romantic novels, it can actually happen. Scientists believe that intense emotions such as grief can shock your body into a fatal heart condition.
A study by researchers from St. George’s University of London that was published in the February 2014 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) found that the chance of experiencing a stroke or heart attack after a partner’s death doubles within the first 30 days.
When disconnected, our brains and our hearts work against each other, paralyzing us and keeping us from the life that we long to have. However, when our heart-brain connection is functioning properly, its influence is extensive and its power in our lives is immeasurable.
The first way that this powerful influence of the heart-brain connection can be effectively harnessed is through intention. Intention is about the “purpose and awareness with which we approach [an] occasion.” Marcia Wieder defines intention as “to have in mind a purpose of plan, to direct the mind, to aim.” In other words, intention is “influencing one’s internal and external environment in a purposeful way.” It is harnessing the power of the mind and heart together to achieve even our most impossible dreams.
The heart and brain are intimately connected in a bi-directional communication system that controls and affects our bodies and our lives. When the brain and heart are disconnected, we will experience physical, emotional, and mental consequences that can be devastating to our physical health and our overall well-being. When the heart is disconnected from the brain, it will create a variety of negative emotions; when the brain is the dysfunctional component, it will actually sabotage our efforts toward developing the life we desire to have. However, when the heart-brain connection is working effectively, our bodies and our lives become energized and empowered. We will be able to address and overcome the negative emotions and self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us bogged down. Through the power of intention, we will be enabled to create a life that we desire and deserve. Even more, we can attain our full potential through the process of self-actualization, resulting in a life of creativity, positive progress and true purpose. This is the power of the heart-brain connection.
Personally there have been a lot of changes for me over the last few months. In August my husband very abruptly dashed to Liberia to assist with the Ebola response, and since then I’ve been struggling with how to live with him so far away (and not worry about him constantly) while also winding down my physical practice and moving to working exclusively online. It’s made me want to write this post to share but to also sort through the lessons that I’ve dealt with during this transition.
As highly sensitive empaths we love very intensely, I think that love also relates to moments. We love moments or situations and when they change it can feel like they are being ripped from our heart, even if they were a little prickly to love in the first place. I think inherently highly sensitive empaths struggle with change.
Well knowing what you’re struggling with is the first step to understanding how to truly create lasting change. Now you can stop engaging in a loosing battle and put your energy into places you can win, such as using your big heart to make your life more productive, fulfilling and peaceful. Understanding yourself allows you to stop beating yourself up and start seeing your infinite strengths and to have compassion on yourself. This is extremely important especially for Highly Sensitive Empath who are experts at beating themselves up. But there are four more steps you also need to master.
What is a Highly Sensitive Empath (HSE)?
It is a personality type that is actually connected to your sympathetic nervous system and where a part of your brain that is literally more open. Therefore unlike other personality types this one is based on how your brain is actually physically made up. What this means is that Highly Sensitive Empath’s are actually receiving and processing more information then the average person.Therefore although you can use the different aspects of being Highly Sensitive Empath to your benefit there is very little you can do to actually change how much information you receive and the time it takes to process it. It is like you have 5 stacks of paper work to sort through on a daily basis instead of one small one. Continue reading