I’ve recently returned from a transformative trip to India, and I felt compelled to share some of the profound insights I gained during my time there. While it might seem cliché to label a journey to India as “life-changing,” I assure you, the impact was indeed profound.
This wasn’t my first visit to India, but it was the first time I delved into a personal development workshop focused on the wisdom of the body. As someone with a deep spiritual inclination and a massive heart, I’ve navigated the realms of intellect and emotions, but this journey aimed to explore the often-overlooked wisdom residing within our bodies.
The workshop addressed crucial aspects of connection, consent, and the fine line between helping and rescuing. Allow me to distill my experience into three key lessons, each offering a glimpse into the intricate dance of the heart, body, and mind.
1. Connecting from the Heart
On the first day of the workshop, my primary focus was learning how to connect with people authentically. As someone who tends to be intense, finding a balance between nourishing connections and respecting boundaries was a personal goal. Surprisingly, the key lesson came effortlessly.
“Listen from your heart and speak from your heart.”
This seemingly simple advice revolutionized my approach to connections, prompting a shift from intellectual engagement to heartfelt interaction.
In my daily life, managing a team and making impactful decisions can be intellectually demanding, but learning to sink into my heart space has become a practice I’m committed to. As I share these reflections, I strive to maintain the authenticity that speaking from the heart brings, transcending the boundaries of mere intellect.
2. Deep Consent
The workshop’s initial focus on consent delved into the subtleties of how our bodies respond to various interactions. It illuminated the importance of paying attention to how we feel in the presence of others. The second lesson centered on embracing a profound form of consent, which has become especially relevant in my work amid the challenges in Ukraine.
Deep consent involves acknowledging the sensations in our bodies and recognizing when an interaction aligns with our well-being. This insight has been invaluable as I navigate through intense situations, ensuring that my actions are rooted in genuine consent rather than obligation.
3. Serving vs. Rescuing: Unraveling the Shadow Side
The most significant revelation during my time in India revolved around the concept of helping versus rescuing.
Dr. Betty Martin’s “Wheel of Consent” introduced me to the dynamics of serving and accepting. While serving and accepting with true consent creates beautiful moments, the shadow side of rescuing can lead to unintended harm.
This lesson became a profound exploration of boundaries and the nuances between serving from a place of abundance and rescuing out of guilt or fear. My fear of hurting others, though rooted in good intentions, often led me down the path of rescuing—a realization that shook the very foundations of my understanding.
Understanding the detrimental effects of rescuing has prompted a deep self-reflection. It’s a journey of unraveling layers, acknowledging the fear of inadequacy, and learning to serve from a place of genuine abundance rather than obligation.
In the coming weeks, I’ll delve deeper into these lessons, exploring their impact on my humanitarian work and personal life. Stay tuned for more insights on authentic connections, navigating consent, and the delicate balance between serving and rescuing.