Step Three – Health Boundaries

Healthy boundaries. It’s is a term that gets thrown around a lot, but what exactly are healthy boundaries and how can we implement them in our lives? The answer lies in a simple metaphor that involves a cactus and a flower.

Imagine that you are a cactus and the people in your life are flowers. As a cactus, you thrive on lizard poop for food, love sunshine all year round, require only a thimble full of water, hate the shade, and prefer sand and rocks as your growing medium. On the other hand, your friend who is a flower might love composted leaves as their fertilizer, need soil rich in nutrients, enjoy four seasons, dislike direct sunlight, and love winter. 

Healthy boundaries are essential in promoting well-being in all our interactions with others. Taking care of your garden first will help you become a better version of yourself, and you’ll be better equipped to help others. Remember, healthy boundaries are like a cactus and a flower – two different plants that require different things to thrive. By respecting each other’s boundaries, we can create a garden that is beautiful, thriving, and sustainable.

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“Healthy relationships are relationships that encourage both people to be the best version of themselves.”


From my book, The Good Thing about Mortar Shells – Choosing Love Over Fear

My book

If you have enjoyed this mini-course and would like to take this journey further, check out my book The Good Thing About Mortar Shells: Choosing love over fear”.