Why Comparisons are the Path to Hell!

Comparisons are a major source of pain and suffering in our lives. They come in many different forms and can have disastrous effects on our mental and emotional well-being. This is why it’s so important to understand why we make comparisons and what we can do instead.

There are two main ways in which we compare ourselves to others. The first is when we compare one aspect of ourselves to another person’s strengths. This often leads to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Even if we compare ourselves as a whole to someone else, it’s still often to someone who we perceive to be better or more successful. This can create a sense of failure and lead to a vicious cycle of self-criticism.

The second way we compare ourselves is to people who are worse off than us. This can create feelings of guilt and misery, even if we are trying to motivate ourselves to be better. However, the use of comparison to motivate ourselves is often rooted in fear. We want to become better people, but we often only know how to do that through fear-based methods. This is a classic “love over fear” moment, where we want to escape fear but end up damaging ourselves in the process.

Comparing ourselves to others also makes us judgmental, which creates a disconnect between ourselves and others. This disconnect can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection, which further exacerbates the negative effects of comparison.

So, what can we do instead of making comparisons? The key is to focus on our own growth and self-improvement, rather than constantly comparing ourselves to others. We can do this by setting achievable goals, focusing on our strengths, and surrounding ourselves with positive and supportive people. We should also try to minimize our exposure to social media and other sources that promote unrealistic ideals, which can contribute to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

Comparisons lead to pain, suffering, and judgment! By focusing on our own growth and improvement, and minimizing our exposure to sources that promote unrealistic ideals, we can break free from the cycle of comparisons and find peace and happiness within ourselves.

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